I read this self.reddit awhile ago (in July) that gave advice to people of different ages. So since I’m now 19 (as of 1 minute ago), I wanted to impart a compilation of the best advice I’ve heard/given to the young 18 year olds:
- Find what you love and breathe it, chase it, love it.
- Make decisions based on what you want to do, not on what others want. Following the crowd is easier, no doubt, but you won’t be happy.
- Don’t ever close any doors through laziness, make an effort and don’t leave it for last-minute. Leave spontaneously but not lazily.
- Try everything. You’re at a point in your life where the world is open to you. Just because you haven’t done something doesn’t mean you won’t like it and that it can’t provide you with a lifetime of satisfaction.
- Be kind to everyone. It’s easy to get approval by picking on those who are weaker. Avoid that temptation. Everyone deserves your regard.
- Forgive your friends when they wrong you. They will. It’s part of life.
- Don’t do ___ until you’re old enough to do it responsibly if the consequences of getting caught (guilt, punishment etc) aren’t worth the momentary pleasure, you’re just not comfortable, and/or you aren’t willing to go through the process of trying to remember the different lies you tell and to who (along with trying to recall the truth).
- Be kind to your parents. Odds are they love you and want what’s best for you. Alienating them will hurt them and those scars could last for decades.
- If someone asks you out on a date, go. You never know.
- If someone is being annoying, mean, condescending, etc, remove yourself from the situation: you don’t have the right to be mean.
- Remember it’s ok to be sad or unhappy, you are human: this too shall pass.
- Don’t go looking, do what you got to do and know it will come.
- It truly doesn’t matter what others think of you. If someone laughs maliciously at you, tell them it isn’t nice to laugh at others expense. If someone tells you that you are messed up, trust yourself to know it’s not true.
- Read everything but “on whim and for yourself, don’t worry about reading ‘good’ literature or following the top 100 books. Challenge yourself by reading authors that were read by authors you love (instead of Fan Fiction etc). Only annotate books that request it and when doing so thoughtfully ink in your realizations (relevant or tangential), don’t use a highlighter.” Old Gruff on Reading
- Fake confidence is the same as real confidence. Nobody will know the difference except yourself.
- When you see a picture of yourself, you are the only who is analyzing every flaw of yours. The same applies to your conversations, your book choices etc.
- Take every opportunity to be lost and explore. You grow the most from uncomfortable situations.
- When someone says they aren’t mean and that they are just being honest: they are most likely mean. Honesty is only for the people who you are close to and should only be expressed in a tasteful, non-repetitive manner.
- Stay in shape and be healthy. It’s so easy now, and you won’t regret the longevity in lifespan it may bring. It also gives you gratification and happiness.
- Don’t smoke.
- Learn a foreign language.
- Learn an instrument.
- Don’t be contemptuous of those who know less than you.
- Take every opportunity to tell everyone you love them (especially the people you love the most).
- Don’t drink/use drugs and drive or get in the car with someone who has been drinking/taking something.
- Most everyone is making it up as they go along.